Give Good Love

It just struck me that if we are all flawed, our love must also be flawed right? The love we give and the love we get are all imperfect. Thus we can never love well enough or be loved well enough. The examples of love we have seen as children growing up were also flawed. And as life has it, we grow up re-enacting what we have seen in our lives. It becomes natural to us, and so we don't see or realize any short-comings in them; for example if we have grown up with a family who talk loud and rough, we take that with us into our marriages and don't think that there must be a better way to speak to our spouses and children.If  we are used to not seeing and hearing our parents apologize, then we think it's ok to not apologize to our spouse or children and just assume that when you love someone it means never having to say you're sorry; and so on and so forth. So where does this leave us? it leaves us flawed, thinking that wrong is normal.That we should be taken seriously, but if we hurt or offend someone, that that someone should not take themselves so seriously. 

(Like, seriously, are you kidding me ??) 

Let's face it, the only example of perfect love that we will ever have in our entire lives is only found in the example of Jesus, the God of Love that came in the flesh. There is not a single human being alive, that can ever boast of loving his or her own well. But this does not mean that we are without hope of ever leaving a better example for our children. As adults who have hopefully realized that we are indeed flawed and wanting in knowing how to give good love, there is always the option to learn. To learn how to make those who matter to us, if indeed they actually do, know that they are loved. If we make the effort to learn how to love well, and our spouses and children see a consistent effort being made by us to do so, here we will see the impossible taking place. The impossible where indeed each marriage in each generation is better than the last. Not as good or as worse but better. Just imagine the transformation that this can make in our homes, neighborhoods and the world at large? Thinking big is necessary. That way we tend to see and realize that our own little lives that we tend to get so hung up on, is actually part of an intricate plan that reaches far beyond us. Our lives today are partly a result of the decisions that were made by our ancestors long ago whether we realize it or not. so what direction do we want to see the lives of our children and descendants take because of the decisions we made and the love we gave? after all that is what it all boils down to in the end anyway - The love we gave.